20 Oh, take your time, don't live too fast Part 1

This is going to be a story about a personal challenge that I made good on. Now, I may repeat myself on some happenings in these stories. I'm not going to go back and check what I already wrote. 

After I left Charlotte's, I was hell bent on joining in on some of the fun stuff that was going on around me. I already had hit on some of the drugs. Mostly just smoky stuff. Pot and hash. Ok, good. I thought to myself. Jesus, the 60's are almost over. I've had some dumb kid boyish friends but I want some real man-woman love. Gotta happen in 1969. 

When I went over to any of my girl friend's houses, we did a lot of the regular things. Smoke a little pot, but it would depend who it was. Listen to music. Walk around. We did talk about things we wanted to do. Maybe I was a little off because I always wanted more weird things to happen. But it also seems a lot of my friends had older brothers. People had more kids then and especially since a lot of my friends were derelicts from Catholic School. Most families had four kids but some families had 11 or 13 kids. Really devout. I had to listen to crap like Joni Mitchell or Simon and Garfunkel in the girls' rooms, but I heard this heavy sound coming from the boys rooms. I turned on the radio at home. It wasn't the first time I heard Blue Cheer or Iron Butterfly. In fact, the lifeguards at Oceanside Pool let me in their special room because I had good 45's. That was mostly in 1967 and 1968. 

I couldn't sit there and listen to Joni Mitchell for hours and stare at the album covers. If the mom was home, she was usually ironing or something. It ran the gamut with Catholic moms. Some, for God's sake, went to church everyday. Those were the kind that had 11 kids and were completely downtrodden. They had to go to the supermarket constantly because of the amount of the food they needed for all the kids. There were some moms though, that kind of looked like mob moms and weren't always home. It happened on occasion I ended up listening to music with the brothers, not only because of the music, but because the boys liked to plan pranks and talk about how dumb some stuff was. Funny banter. The whole boy girl thing was so much different back then. Boys played outside and were a little wild. They did more funny things. Girls were supposed to learn to cook and be obedient. This was 1969, I'm not exaggerating. You see movies about hippies, but the future was drearily planned out for everyone. This was "pre Stepford Wives" movie. No matter their sex. It's not the same now. Some things are good. Some things are bad. So I ended up talking to a lot of boys. Really, my main focus was talking or pranks.

So one of my friends, who I ended up doing Earth Day stuff in 1970 with, had an older brother I didn't see much. Maybe on the weekends. How do I introduce him? All I can say is hippie god. He kind of looked like Clint Eastwood but with long hair. He wore a fringe jacket all the time and he was built like Clint Eastwood too. The kind of muscle you get from work and from fighting. New York hippies were different from California hippies, in my opinion. This girl, JM, had two older brothers and all the kids were sent to work the cranberry bogs in Massachusetts during the summer. They were pretty tough. The father was a Merchant Marine and he was a scary dude. Very weathered look. Tattoos weren't commonplace, just pretty much sailors. Those green drawings on his arms were fascinating to me. So wow. He'd come home from his time out there on the ocean and be looking for a fight. Both boys had regular fist fights with him. A lot of dads back then did that to teach their sons how to be men. I saw a lot of fist fights growing up. I can tell you that when friends tangle you know it's going to be brutal. A lot of pent up things going on.

I used to do a lot of things by myself. I like to observe and enjoy things. I learned that it can be a pain to be in a group of people because they usually "wanted to go." It was easy enough for me to jump on the bus and take it to Long Beach. If I did have someone with me that was cool, we'd hitchhike. I hitchhiked all the time. The only time I did it by myself though was when I was living up Ute Pass in Colorado in the 80's. I went to Long Beach to hang out on the boardwalk. All the old attractions and rides. Everything dilapidated. There were always people there. Sometimes I would sit and talk to some of the old people that walked the Boardwalk. I loved to hear stories of their life. Lots of hippies too. One girl would pay me to go on that ride "Loop O Plane." A capsule thing that went upside down. She'd get really drunk and give me a dollar every time I went on it with her. She puked once, but thank god it was when we got off.

It was like out of "Spill the Wine," but that song hadn't even come out yet. "Out of the middle came a lady. She whispered in my ear, something crazy." But a guy. If you can imagine a hippie god in a fringe jacket, with the ocean breezes blowing through his hair." 🤣 Just like a rock and roll video. (Which also hasn't had its time yet.)

Not a hippie, but a god in a fringe jacket

He sat himself down. We already knew each other but vaguely. So I guess you could say the die was cast.

Ok. It wasn't this bad, but maybe like this a little bit.

 

 

99 The house of ruin ain't mine no more

I went to bed. I climbed the bunk. I had tears but I had the mad flowing too. And Zac was there. The only thing I had to hold onto anymore. I was pretty damn alone. I couldn't give up what was left of me. Maybe these people weren't as fucked as I thought, but I really think they were. It's nice to want tranquility but their idea included giving up everything that made you an individual. Do what you want but let me go.

I'll change if I want to

I woke up the next morning. The cooking women were gone and I let the others go to their oatmeal. I walked up on out of there with Zac and started along the road to town. Need hypnosis to know the distance but my mind was filled with confusion. I stuck my thumb out and made it to Forest Grove.

I don't feel like spending a bunch of time looking for photos of Forest Grove in the 70's. For some reason I get nothing. There was a cafe. Perfect. Coffee and food with what money I had. Yeah. Just like they all were. A counter. Cheap decent food. A place for the town to sit and talk. Eat and read the newspaper.

Not much different in the early 70s, except for the cars.

I was shook up. What the hell? Am I really going to do this? I was tired. If this had happened in the beginning I would have just kept going by myself. But it was a long trip and I needed to just come down now. Three months of hitchhiking, drug doing, good people, bad stuff, tempting death, fooling around and a little broken heart. I was strong but not immortal. Maybe I need to admit that even though I could hold myself like a warrior, my heart was vulnerable.

The waitress and some old dude next to me could see I was messed up. "You okay, hon?" Who knows. Maybe that was a regular occurrence in this town, these times. I got up and went to the back. Pay phone on the wall. Did you ever hear Patty Hearst say "Mom, Dad." Well this was the first time in three months. Don't think I was the only one. Lots of Long Island hippies, malcontents, punks and criminals needed to go places. Sometimes you'd hear about them and sometimes you wouldn't. "I wonder what ever happened to..." I called collect.

"Mom." "Can I come home?" My mom and dad were always cool as hell. They lived their young life wild and almost encouraged it in me. The Sophie factor. Grandma Sophie was a hell of a woman. My mom loved her. Learned a lot of superstitions from her, too. Yes. Of course I could.

But we hung up because she was going to call my seemingly money bags sister. My parents had never taken a plane. I don't want to go off into other stories, I just want to finish this. But my mom didn't know how to get a plane ticket and they didn't have as much money as you think. The big gap in wage earners wasn't as wide as it is now and my dad kept having heart attacks that took up the money. My sister was paying.

I waited and called. My sister, K, was there now. They had a couple more things to figure out so I sat back down and drank more coffee. The waitress didn't mind. Oh yeah. Mom asked me if LBJ wanted a ticket too. I didn't tell her how hard I was already trying to get him to go, or anything else. Nothing else. Ok. They were going to get him a ticket too.

My sister answered the phone this time. "The flight is tomorrow. It's all arranged. go to the police station. They'll help you." "The police station?" I sunk. I didn't want to do that. Cops and free livin', free thinkers didn't exactly have a camaraderie at that time. But we didn't have the internet, cell phones, ubers or credit cards. People had to make connection, of some sort, whether they wanted to or not.

In a self induced haze I started walking over there. This is what happened... my sisters husband was a cop. They have that fraternity thing and he made the call over to their cop shop. They were waiting for me. I walked in there, a small place I remember. Nicer than New York cops.

Well, I went back to the farm. Eeew, the cops dropped me at the gate and said they'd be back tomorrow to take us to the airport. Eeew. But right now I wanted my pants for Christs sake and I'll ask one last time. And I needed to tell LBJ that I got the tickets.

I was seething, but even then sometimes I still appear laid back. Am I a stereotype? I think not. But this time I'm sure it showed. Almost immediately walked into that jerk that wouldn't give me my pants back. Gritting my damn teeth. "Where are my pants?!!!" "They're not ready." Same as he always said. Yeah. Mad. "Well, forget it." 🙄

It was after they came back from the field and I didn't dawdle and found LBJ. "Got plane tickets for tomorrow. Don't you want to get out of here?" He just paused and said "Yeah." Maybe he was tired too. But he said "The cops?" Yeah. It was a horror. Put my eyes down. "Yup. The cops."

I walked back to the place where they kept the women separate and just laid down on the bunk. Staring, crying and sleeping. Luckily Zac had food but I didn't eat again.  I didn't want to go back to New York. That filthy, dark, dirty, bleak, depressing, corrupt ramshackle of a shithole. Ugggh. I was sick. I'm honestly having chest pains thinking about it now. It was fucked.

Next morning the cops were up at the outside gate just like they said they'd be. Not a happy thing really. We walked the small dirt hill with the bags we came with. I'm pretty sure the both of us were wilder looking, lots of hair growth. But I was wearing a pair of brown corduroy pants instead of my beautiful jeans.  I'll never forget those brown pants either. I like earth colors and sometimes go with that theme. They looked good but they made a lot of noise. Funny noise.

Pretty quiet sitting in the back of the car. I don't remember how we got the ticket. You went up to the counter then, I guess, but I didn't have any ID. Did you not need it or did the cops give me a sheet of paper? I remember a friggin piece of paper flying around in front of my face. Doesn't matter.

I still had Zac. First time either of us were ever on a plane. Huh? I can't bring Zac? 😢 I loved him. This is sucking in every way. Perk that bravery up. I stood outside and saw a nice couple, the older bohemian type. Zac was the coolest cat and people loved him because he was strange and different with that extra toe. And animals don't care if you're a little weird.

I asked "Hi. Would you please take my cat?" 😔 The gal was especially nice. She pet him and said of course. I didn't look when I handed him over and gave them his food.

We walked back to the gate. Looked around one last time before we hit New York again. So that's pretty much the end of that. When we landed it was a different story... dirtier, more jaded, less hopeful. I don't want to summarize or put a moral to the trip. It's not like there are actual lessons in my story, just the only one I've got down pat. Take it all in and turn it into that movie in your head. I want to say something corny and that's holding me back. Stuff like the more scenes you film, the better the story after the final edit. 🙄 Dork.

 

98 The book of judges

Still doing time with the Jesus Freaks. I looked at them knowing many of the people there had good meaning in their heart, but at the same time I felt as though they were damaged and weak. I never got near the people running the place except for the one Bobby Beausoleil character. He's the one that took my jeans to be sewn. I call him that because he had a look much different than the rest of the members. He had a dark impish look and he wore black. I thought there might be a chance to relate to him. I don't know if you understand how I was a dark themed hippie. Love and all, but let's check into the dark side once in a while. I was a Black Sabbath girl. Even Jesus spent time with the devil in the desert.

In between checking Beausoleil out, I was falling into a deep funk. I just wanted to go. Why could I see what was happening and no one else? Because I had balls of steel, that's why. I held my mind and didn't let it sway. I knew the tricks that were played. Every fucking day the same thing. Hold back food then glorify the message with reward. That small piece of chocolate. No time to gather your own thoughts. Broken sleep, prayer and chores. The masters of manipulation learn human nature early.

If I had such fortitude why didn't I just go? It was getting close, but a few things stuck with me from Catholic school. The Dominicans main lesson "Use the brain that God gave you to think about what will make this world a better place. Think of others. Don't follow, hold onto the free and individual spark in your soul. Think but be kind." One of my mom's themes too. These people were twisting LBJ's brain in a way I hadn't seen before. He was a big "fuck you" kind of guy and now he was following orders. 

On the few occasions that I quickly saw him, which was really weird because we were usually in constant fornication, I pleaded with him to leave. "I hate this place. Can't you see it? They're using food and sleep to weaken people." Now you might think "but he was happy." Not what I saw. He had a vacant look in his eyes. My thought is that they gave that part of his brain where he was thinking about the trouble he left a rest. I appreciated that. That's why I stayed as long as I did. But I felt that they were getting free labor and a sense of power out of it. Who was I to judge, right?

So it was twirling in my brain that for my own sake I had to get out of there. Not any kind of existence I longed for. I was still working on LBJ but I had another obstacle too. How could I love a pair of jeans that much? Because they were an expression of what I was. Every patch, every color of embroidery thread. I astounded people with them. I'd see the Beausoleil guy "Are my pants ready yet?" "No. Not yet." "What's taking so long? Give them back to me." I couldn't even get in to talk directly with the sewing ladies.

Far, far beyond this in creativity

"No. We have to let them be sewn by the sewing women. Let's pray they get done soon." No. I'm not going to pray they get done soon. Give them back to me." He just stood there and I walked away. If you ever wanted to see me mad, this was the time.

Next day the Beausoleil guy approached me as I was outside, the only alone person. "Are my jeans ready?" "No. Let's sit." I am not unreasonable so I sat on a log bench with him. Here's a little conversation.

"I hear that you've practiced witchcraft." 

"What?" I couldn't believe what I was hearing. The person that I shared my bed with and had such intimate conversation exposed something personal to a stranger. Witchcraft in the early 70's was severely frowned upon by many segments in the population. Not the mass produced wicca of today. Uh oh. I didn't say anything.

Then the Bobby fella went on to explain his dark path that he had taken. No wonder he had the black and the silver. "I used to practice witchcraft." I don't remember all he told me about how he fell into so much depths and dregs, but he had been into it darker than I was.

I could have sat there for a few more minutes. I am always open to discussion, but he started veering from the kind and forgiving Jesus and ventured into the cruel and wrathful God. I was going to burn unless I changed.

I was hurt beyond words that I was so betrayed.

97 The strasberg

There's still more to be told of my time at the Jesus Freak commune. Think of a state of food regulation, sleep deprivation, sweeping, standing away from the masses and watching it all like a movie. But I've been listening to Lola by The Kinks everyday and it reminds of a little story that might be a bit interesting to some of you.

We need to jump ahead to 1974, close enough. I wrote about some of the shitty apartments I lived in at the beginning of blog but there was one shining star. I was living in Long Beach, one of the crappiest cities in New York at the time. But this new place was about two blocks from the boardwalk and the beach. It was after the apartment on Park Avenue that was condemned for super bad plumbing and cockroaches.

Cute building from the 30's. I lived on the ground floor which was the coolest. It had a side door into the old kitchen. Good working order. Old stove, old refrigerator. Living room in the front, bedroom in the back. Hardly any cockroaches 'cause everyone in the building was pretty clean. So lucky to get it. I don't know how it is there now... but in those days you had to go to a real estate agent for rentals unless you knew the landlord. It was always a woman in her 40's or 50's dealing with apartments. This one lady liked me for some reason and tried real hard to find something decent. Good job lady.

This story isn't about the apartment but about a few of the people that happened to visit.

So it starts with Mike B. One of the kids in Catholic school, a grade ahead. He was one of 13 children. There were quite a number of families that size. No wonder the parents were all alcoholics. Anyway, I have something to say about how judgy people are about kid raising. When you're around families like that you witness the miracle that we are individuals. Is it a spark in the soul? I don't know. Families can produce saints, priests, nuns, derelicts, drug addicts and criminals all in one group. No rhyme or reason. You just gotta try.

Mike was a New York hippie. Not the wussy stereotype west coast style. Peace in the world, but bar fights if pushed. Mike had strength of character and decency to no end. There's a story about him taking the worst part of a drug rap (a small joint) under the Rockefeller Laws to spare others. But it's really his older brother we're talking about here. I forget his first name because everyone called him by his Polish last name. Guys that tough on the southwestern shores of Long Island didn't use their real first names.

The ethnic Catholics in those days could be very heavy drinkers. Mike stuck with the pot, but older B drank like Van and Jim. Those of us that were goofier and hippier used to try to convert them to just weed and a little Mateus but to no avail. "Yeah. That's the drug of the establishment." Didn't work.

Well, my man used to meet up with the older B on occasion in a few of the many available dive bars on Long Island. We didn't call them that, they were just bars or old man bars. Older B looked like he'd turn and knock you down with his pinky, but he was a gent to the ladies. Word was he had criminal ties, but I didn't pay attention to that stuff. I was always into the entertainment value. You almost couldn't avoid it.

Just an example

Sometimes he'd stop by. That's just the lifestyle back then. There'd be a knock on the door and people would pile in. The purpose would be to listen to music, smoke some pot and talk. I don't know, people liked coming over. No invitation, no big preparation. Whatever. It was much better and more fun. Usually someone that had a car brought people.

Mike B and older B never came over together. They didn't hang out with each other. Older B started bringing his girlfriend. I couldn't tell you her real name, it was different every time. 😅 I'm going to call her Lola 'cause that's the most memorable.

Lola was a topless dancer at one of the sleezy clubs in a nearby town. I think it was Freeport. Some towns had them, some didn't. Older B was a white Polish Catholic, in those days we said Polack, and Lola was black. That was still quite a deal in the early 70's. Especially to the old timers. Watch the movie Joe to get a taste of what they were like.

She was naturally flamboyant and I was curious about her personality and her lifestyle. The fellas would be drinkin' and we'd be talking about womanly stuff. It wasn't just talk about sex, but about life and the sucky things in society. You can think what you want, but birth control and more freedom for women was still in its early days. There was some tough stuff to put up with.

But the reason I named this story after Strasberg was that she was completely into her "work characters." She started coming over to just talk with me. She knocked on the front door and each time I opened the door it was a different human. Different wig, different outfit, different name. I opened the door one day and she had on a blonde wig. "Don't you know me, S.? It's Lola."

"Oh Lola. C'mon in." Isn't it cute that she liked to talk to me 'cause I was a goofy flower child? 

One evening I was sleeping already and my man was in the living room. Apparently. It's hard to explain the way some people thought about different things during that time. We were forcing change, I guess. I'm not taking all the credit though. I think it's some kind of strange force in the universe. Dorks we were, huh?

Who knows why I was knocked out already? Maybe a long day at the beach? I loved the challenge of body surfing with crowds of people. The waves could knock you over when they were big enough, if you didn't dive into them at just the right moment. You'd end up scraping along the bottom, for example, if a fat guy got knocked over and then went ahead and knocked you over like a bowling pin. You'd be riding the wave with him on top and you with the shells.

Sleeping, sleeping. There was an open widow a couple of feet from the bed. I hear my name. "S. S." It was Lola outside calling my name. Huh? I got up because she was whispering. What? "I just gave your man a blow job." Huh? I just woke up. She repeated "I just gave your man a blow job. I thought you should know." One of the weirdest ways I ever woke up.

I laid back down. How do I explain what was happening then. We were so anti-establishment. People were trying for free and honest. There was a lot of it in certain circles. Humans are so weird. Changing back and forth, back and forth. We can't make up our god damn minds.

96 Oh yeah that was the departure

I knew I'd forget a couple of things and have to come back later and throw them in. I need to add a little something about leaving Berkeley. Yeah, we cleaned a couple of rooms at the dorm but we needed to survive. LBJ worked, not everyday, and I did the Free Clinic panhandling thing, close but not everyday. But take a guess, we didn't care too much about money. We ate food and we hung out. Trying to figure out what the hell was going on in the world. We believed that and I still do. People need to spend some time when they're not working their asses off in the rat race. Our Long Island parents were fine examples. I don't think I knew anyone whose parents weren't alcoholics. Most of them were the moms. Miserable in their situation. "Hello Mrs. S." She just had her hair done and her eyes were real glassy. They threw us in Catholic School so we didn't notice.

So when we were going to leave we had some money, but who knows what was going to happen. Little bit extra could keep us from being hungry. I planned this. I did go out one more time for the Free Clinic the day before we left. I stood in front of the food co-op and did fine.

On the streets when we hung out we all took care of one another. We had to survive. It really was a community. No phoniness. We talked about the beautiful places we went and the places that were cool with us being there. We shared our survival stories. And created stories of how the world should be.

So right now I had to survive. I heard the thing to do was to get the box, do the thing, keep your last take and hit the road. The people at the clinic knew this happened but they were all about helping people out on the street. They looked at you like this was the last time they'd see you and the dude always said something about taking care. These were the best people.

My day ended. Night was getting closer and I did what I heard. I went into a restroom somewhere out of public view. Turned that box upside down and started shaking. It took work. I smashed it up on the floor and got the last bit out. Threw it in the garbage along with my panhandling license. Split the next morning. Thing is they kept my birth certificate. Nobody cared. What did you need ID for back then. Nothing. And that was the end of Berkeley.

95 I'm going insane

Knock knock knock. Bang bang bang. "And the lord..." Blah blah blah. Every day. Oh every fuckin' middle of the night.

Womenfolk

No. I am not going to go into the kitchen. This was 1972. I was defiant about that at five, I'm not caving in now. It's only been a few days. I've hardly seen LBJ but in passing. I am not liking this.

Alright. Leave me alone with your ideas on what my work should be. I'll do something on my own.  "Ok. I'll sweep." I should have said "I'll fuckin' sweep" but I was too god damned polite. So I swept the dusty wooden barracks floor. The front porch. The mess hall and the office porch. Oh no. Don't you dare go near the men's barracks. Ok. Ok. Stop telling me that. Oh yeah. Don't worry, I won't go in the office either.

Sweeping around the mess hall I figured out why they had to get up at three every day. It's hard to believe. Before almost every god damned thing they did they stopped and prayed about it. Let's say a pray before washing the dishes. Alright, I'm really a believer in letting people go on with what they prefer, with that ever present phrase "just so long as they're not hurting anybody." But I wondered how these women, and men, got to the point where they thought they had to be so submissive?

More of that later. So I swept the floor by my lonesome every day. Good. I'm playing with my cat now. I finally got to see LBJ as he was heading out after one of the dumb meetings. I wasn't hep on leaving him there and hitchhiking my way out of there by myself. "I hate this place. I want to leave." Whew. The city boy was hit with the country. Well, I was too but not with these people. "I just want to go." "Aww, not yet. I get up on that hill when the sun rises and look out over the fields. It's beautiful." Well nice for you but I'm here watching a bunch of brainwashed chicks praying over dirty oatmeal bowls.

Aaaaarrrrgggghhhhhhhh!

Ok. I'm getting all judgy here, but I was living there. I am sure these people had huge holes in their psyche and were just finding anything to patch it up. Whatever. Later on that.

Ok. He's been through a lot. I'll wait a little longer. While I'm here maybe I can sew up my patched bell bottoms. They were beautiful. All kinds of colorful material pieces. They were hardly pants anymore, just patches.

Probably 3 times as many patches as Alvin Lee & Ron Draper's jeans

I asked one of the few men that was in the "farm" during the day if I could get a needle and thread. "No. We'll give them to the sewing group to work on." "I can sew them myself." "Everything must be done as a community here." "That's ok. I can do it." He just kind of took them from me. I should have kept them. Jesus Christ.

94 The witching hour

3 am. Loud bang on the door. Someone starts reciting something loud. What is that? Oh. It's some kind of bible verse. I was never that familiar with verses. Our nuns were progressive Dominicans. They'd read a few sentences, but we never memorized anything from the bible. We talked about the meaning of love. It was always the priests that sucked.

I was groggy. Probably still had weed inhalation from Washington. "Why are they doing that?" "Time to get up." "No thanks. I'm going to sleep." "We have to get up to make breakfast." "In the middle of the night?" "There's a lot of people. The men go to the fields at dawn."

Just the menfolk

They left me alone. I got up when the sun started coming up and the clang clang clanking started. So the men got to sleep later and wander over to the mess hall at dawn. I went in there and most of the women ate after the men because they were dishing it out. 😑 Some women were sitting at a separate table. I sat down with them. They did other female stuff like sew and clean. "No. Don't know how to sew."

No coffee. Some kind of molasses and chicory drink. Alright. A bowl with a big plop of oatmeal. No milk, no sugar... nothing. Plain. Good. I'm into simple stuff. But why get up at 3 am to make a plop of oatmeal? Everyday it was the same. 

The menfolk went up the hill to the fields. The kitchen women were cleaning up. The sewing women went off to their room. I went and got Zac and brought him outside. There was a clearing between the women's cabin, the mess hall, the sewing room and a couple of small cabins. We played in the dirt. Not a typical hippie commune, I didn't see any dogs running loose. I don't think anyone had any pets. It had dawned on me pretty quick that this place was really strict and was mostly into reciting bible passages. I didn't worry too much yet.

The field work stopped mid afternoon. Damn, I was hungry. It was a long time since that plop of oatmeal. If I was picking berries I'd be shoving a few in my mouth. The bell rang again. I filed in there with the other women. Walked the line. Oh. Lentil sandwich. Delicious. This time as we finished our delicious lentil sandwich... I don't remember what we had to drink, water or lemonade... people, I mean men, became joyous. It always started with one particular fella getting up and praising god. People would join in with big smiles. I just sat there. 

After some jubilation we went outside to listen to more passages. I sat there and looked around, enjoying the experience. Whew. This is something. Look at all these people digging words. I noticed there were a few couples allowed to sit next to one another. They were officially married. But the sexes were separate and I definitely wondered why the women stood for it. I wanted to hear. I was so open to different lifestyles. But they pretty much uttered quotes. Ok. Do what you want, but I'd like to hang out with a couple of guys. I don't like cooking very much and forget the sewing.

It went on for quite a while. But I thought we'd have dinner too? "No dinner?" It probably would have been lentils again anyway. "Sometimes we get a snack."

Well, luckily I still had some peanut butter and Zac still had food. We hit the sack early and I started to completely ignore the bible verses. It was non-stop.

It started all over gain. The banging on the door and the loud voice reading. Goodnight. I pulled the pillow over my head.

93 Enjoy your free buffet

Maybe I've mentioned that I had already looked into many different spiritual paths. A lot of people were searching. There were Jesus Freak groups in my hometown. Some looked in churches where they spoke in tongues. I went to one of those with a boy down the block once. I didn't join in on that one. There were lots of young Jews for Jesus in my hometown too. You didn't have to believe the son of God stuff. Just find reverence in his words of love and peace. 

I'm telling you this so you understand why I wasn't all weirded out when we got into the back of that truck. It was kind of fun. People seemed to be as happy as could be. Most were standing in the truck and holding onto the railing of the bed. Singing as we drove.

A tall fella asked if we wanted a sandwich. "Sure, thank you." We each got one. We unwrapped the wax paper. I love wax paper, that's what my sandwiches came in as a kid. You just have to know how to fold it. Opened it up. Hmmm. It was good whole wheat bread. The thick, heavy and healthy kind that doesn't come in a plastic bag at the store. But what was on it? "Lentils." "Lentils?" Beans weren't real big in suburban homes at that time, yeah pork and beans but not lentils or garbanzos. Even at the health food restaurants in Berkeley I didn't have anything with lentils in it, even though they probably had them. Ok. I'll try it. I liked to try things. But all this sandwich had was plain lentils with yellow mustard on whole wheat. Not spiced up either. Plain. I'm not complaining. They shared their food with us. Thank you. It was just the beginning of this chapter but it was really a clue as to what to expect.

We didn't have anything to drink but they gave us a square of chocolate. The ride was refreshing out in the open air. I didn't see too much of the surrounding views because it was dark now and I just sat and looked up at the stars. The people spoke to one another but mostly sang. Looked like there were more guys than gals in the truck.

Looked a lot like this.

I asked where we were going. The one fella that did most of the talking said a farm near Forest Grove, Oregon. Ugh. Headed south but this might be cool for a while. Took less than two hours, so it wasn't a completely quick trip but we had food and a place to stay. 

When we got there we all piled out of the truck. Where were we going to sleep? "Well, the women's cabin is near the mess hall. The men sleep up the hill a bit." Huh, what? What? "Isn't there a place where we can sleep together?" "No. You need to go over to the women's cabin. All the women are there."

Weird. Ok. I'll try it. Off I went. All the gals were already in their bunks except for the couple that were traveling in the truck. It was a plain room with old wooden bunk beds. All that was left was a top bunk for me. I still had Zac and my bag of dry cat food. Up we jumped and thought "Ok. We'll get a nice sleep and check everything out in the morning."

92 Sleep well tonight

There's quite a bit of missing time towards the end with "Derek." I don't remember much of that morning at all, I just know part of what happened later in the day. He took us back to a road that was "hitchable."

We were starting out in the middle of a heavy forest so we didn't go over to a main highway. Just the kind of roads that went a long ways through stretches of country. The ones the locals take. I've remembered the guys that picked us up all these years for lots of reasons. Two fellas driving a typical 70's muscle car.

Add in another guy

"Where you headed?" Washington. "We're going to Washington. We'll drive you all the way." Ok! I couldn't wait to get there. The land of ferns and moss. My mom had ferns all through the yard, but they weren't a thing on Long Island. I saw hills of them in Vermont and I thought I was walking through magic. Heard tell from people about how beautiful Washington was and saw a few photos. And ok, the show Here Comes The Brides. I didn't watch it for Bobby Sherman.I watched it because the thought of such a beautiful place gave me goosebumps. Long Island just didn't do it for me.

We jumped in the back seat. The guys had something up there I had never seen before. A 12-pack. Sitting right between them. I didn't drink beer but my family did. I don't know what the deal is now, but in those days you had to buy your beer at a special distributor in New York. I loved going there with my mom because it was a big drive though building. Cold. The guy would come up to the window and ask what you wanted. Full service, just like the gas stations.

Ours was a stand alone whitewashed building.

That's right. 12-packs weren't always a thing. They popped up in different parts of the country at different times, I suppose. I don't remember the beer they were drinking, just that it was one I hadn't seen before either. LBJ was very interested.

Early 12-pack. Don't know what beer they were drinking.

They drove pretty fast and were drinking that beer. The windows were open and they had their arms leaning on the car door. You know the look. They didn't talk too much to us, but they asked if we needed to crash for the night. Maybe I should make up names for them too. Ok, let's name one Evan and the other Dave. "Yes, thank you." Evan and Dave proceeded to tell us they were renting a cabin in the woods. Pretty sure they said they were paying $60 a month. 

I was tired but looking out the window. Never got bored going for long drives. Always absorbed the scenery. We must have stopped at the gas station at least a couple of times. Don't remember the radio being on. I did get a little worried when I heard them having a strange conversation. LBJ was listening too. I can't exactly quote what I heard but they were going on with stuff like "Yeah. When they hit fourteen, that's too old." Now I may have been sheltered in a strange way up until then because I never heard that before. They conversed a bit on the subject. I'm sure I had a weird look on my face. Why were they saying this weird thing? And why within earshot? I was obviously older than fourteen and was wondering if I should worry. I don't know. It wasn't that long before that I had that serious encounter in Berkeley. 

I was looking at LBJ, probably with a worried disgusted look. He quietly said "It's alright." It was? 

Well, they stopped after a couple of minutes and life went back to normal. They kept drinking beer. LBJ probably had one too. They told us we were getting pretty close to home. I didn't see any signs so I asked "Are we in Washington yet?" Yeah, we just crossed the state line. Evan and Dave already told us they lived just a little bit inside Washington. Now I'm guessing here but I think I'm pretty close... I think our route was from around the vicinity of Weaverville, CA maybe to around the outskirts of Yale, Washington. It makes sense with where we ended up later. Maybe they crossed a bridge near Portland, but these guys didn't take the main highways. It was a long drive but they took it fast.

 

I might have fallen asleep for awhile, I think. When I woke up it was getting close to dark and all the trees made it seem a bit darker. They were right. It was a great place. Secluded. Trees. And when we drove up, there were deer foraging in the front yard. Basically a city girl, this was a wondrous sight.

A similar setting

Turns out these fellas were pretty darn nice. Driving us all that way and letting us stay the night. I'm sure we ate something too. I remember the living room had two big couches. The house wasn't fancy but it wasn't a pig sty either. It was ideal, especially considering the setting. All the guys sat in the living and continued to drink beer. There was laughing and getting along. That was our gift to them. But I spent most of my time outside. I think those few hours helped.

Didn't get to bed till late. We took the couches. The next morning I was outside again breathing in the clean air. Walking in with the trees. I don't know how to explain how good that is for what's in me. I can just lay on the ground and stare at the sky for hours. The guys were still wasted and didn't get up till late. We had coffee and something else, maybe toast. Eventually they took us out to a road we could head north on. No plans on what we were going to do when we got up there. Just see what it was like. "Thanks!"

We had gotten a really late start, there wasn't any kind of schedule or pressure. Everything was whenever. But it was already late afternoon when we got out to the road. Not a lot of traffic so we were there a while. Not much luck. 

This is one of those moments that you think back on and go "why?" A big old farm truck pulled over the opposite side of the road. A load of people standing in the back. All animated and happy. Waving and yelling "C'mon. We'll give you a ride." "We're going north." "Hey, you can spend the night. We have sandwiches and chocolate." It was getting dark. Not much luck, we looked at each other. "Ok."

 

 

91 Girl served sky black part two

It was dark and I was tripping my brains out. I was somewhere else and just laid down in the van and looked out the windows. I know that I couldn't make any spoken communication about what was going on. I'm pretty sure LBJ was out. Derek pulled over. We were in an isolated area. 

This little story is very important to me. I didn't think of it constantly through the years but every so often. When I started writing this blog I would think ahead and laugh. Yes. This is the one. I'm not going to be able to do it justice because it wasn't a word or action experience. It was a dream segment in a movie. It was visual but more than that. It was universal.

Derek crawled into the back of the van and looked down at me. All I could do was look at him. He may have said something to me but I didn't hear him. He opened up the back of the van, picked me up and carried me outside. I don't think we went very far but he laid me down on the ground.

Slow down. This was peaceful. We were quiet.

Just quiet. I looked up. The trees were growing into the sky. The sky was bouncing with light. Bright, crowded stars. Jumping and pulsing. 

Derek leaned over  me. He laid down with me and then he was there. He leaned over me again with his hair hanging down. He spoke to me. But sky words. Forest words. Words to help me visit with this world. How do I describe this? Do I need to express there wasn't any funny stuff? I don't think so anyway, maybe. But we touched veils between indescribable worlds. I can't find the limited words. He spent time with the trees and he was helping me come to terms with what I was seeing.

I am hesitant to use flowery words because that's not my thing, but something happened that night. I went places that would turn you inside out. The trees were the thing. So tall. I saw them for what they are. I think that in our reality we turn down our senses because our thinking mind suffers from the mundane. A finite capacity. But maybe we can work them a little on occasion to let things beyond our perpendicular spaces inside.

Everywhere I looked I saw life. Swaying back and forth but I mostly kept my vision pointed up towards the canopy of the trees. There should be another word for tree because in our world we think of them as a resource, a product. But what I saw that night were pure living creatures beyond what we normally understand . That night I saw them dancing. Moving towards me and back up towards the sky. Green tops, up and down. Never stopping. Brimming with energy and loving their existence.

I don't remember the words that "Derek" used. They were sparse but had meaning. This is all I can do to explain that night. Sky and stars. With their own meaning and power. Life coming from the earth up to the skies. Communion with both. Connection with our souls. Life in all that is green and growing. An understanding between what exists. Our minds do not normally open up and humans suffer the consequences. It is our burden and causes our suffering. 

I don't know how we spent our morning. Maybe the other two were able to function but my mind was blown.

We were on the road again sometime during the day. I just have a feeling that my friend is no longer here among us, but he had an easy journey without fear.

90 Girl served sky black part one

We spent about five weeks in Berkeley and it was time for us to go. This wasn't the place for us, for me. We were heading north and got a ride to the highway headed in that direction, just north of San Francisco. We didn't care how we got up to Washington, just get going that way. Here we go. Zac was a good traveler and I had him on my shoulder. Put our thumbs out. We usually both started hitching and if it took forever, we took turns. Didn't take long in this part of the country.

Similar to this. Beat up green, but no logos

An old green cargo van pulled over. It was a very long haired gentleman. In we jumped. "Where you going?" Washington. "Well I'm headed up by the redwoods. I'll take you up there." I was in the back like usual and LBJ sat up front. Now I don't know what this guy was doing in San Francisco, but he had a little bit of a lot of different drugs with him. He offered us what we wanted to help us enjoy the scenery along the way. I opted for the light stuff... just a little pot. LBJ was into downers and gladly helped himself to some seconal. I didn't understand that, I wanted to see what was going on. But LBJ had been working, maybe he needed to really relax.  I couldn't see what was going on in front. How many he took or whatever. Our host just had a few hits with me.

He took us on the Pacific Coast Highway for a while, an amazing scenic coastal drive. I don't remember the roads being crowded at all once we got a ways from the city. I just was in wonderment at the beauty. We had nice beaches on Long Island, but they were so much plainer than the majestic hills rolling right up to the water. And it was freaky to see boulders popping up in the ocean like mushrooms. We stopped at some point and I went for a walk on the bit of sand. So different having fresh, cool air blowing into my face instead of a square of sand with piles of people from end to end. I guess because it was too cold to just lay there motionless on a towel. I loved it.

Back on the road and we started veering inland. I couldn't believe the green and the size of the trees. Never seen a place this full of healthy life. It was hilly where we were and we passed a couple of tiny old towns with a few buildings here and there. I'd like to give the fella that was our friendly host a name instead of calling him "the guy." Maybe I need to describe him. Very long blonde hair like Gregg Allman... but longer. Sorry but I have to describe this guy as another hippie god type. He was wearing overalls without a shirt and he had just the right kind of lean muscle. He worked to get them. You know, he sweat doing manual labor extensively. Did you ever see Viggo Mortensen in A Walk On the Moon? Well, longer hair, handsomer and cooler than that. How do I tell you that I'm more about the jokes than the looks, but I couldn't help from noticing.

 

Oh. So his name... let's call him Derek for no reason. We pull up to a little old building and Derek says he needs to eat. C'mon in. He'll pay. I went in but LBJ was knocked out. Really tired or too many reds. He could eat peanut butter and jelly later if he's hungry. Why do I remember any of this? Because this whole day and night are the things you do remember.

A building like this but right in the trees.

Small little restaurant. I even remember we ordered breakfast. Derek proceeds to tell me that he has a "farm" up in the redwoods. His life is good. I talk a little about my life and that I was looking for "I don't know what." He asked me to marry him. Huh? 🤷‍♀️ His life was good but he wanted a woman like me to share it with him. "Well. That's nice. Uh. But we just kind of met." He was serious too. He went on a little bit about it. "Oh. Thanks, but I can't." I suppose I could have, but even I didn't marry a stranger I just met. Plus, I have this loyalty thing. What should we do? Push LBJ out of the van and keep driving? Don't think so. Anyway, Derek seemed authentic but for Christ' sake I didn't know him at all.

I guess he took no for an answer and we jumped back into the van truck. LBJ was a little more lucid and we kept driving. Derek working that steering wheel with his tanned muscles, letting that blonde hair hang down there. Now it was getting really woodsy. Holy crap. I have never seen anything like it. It was nearly dark from all that vegetation and size of those trees. He was taking us through back roads. No humans. I felt like I wasn't on earth. Strange dark yellow sunshine through all that green. 

 

Whoa. I don't remember what kind of psychedelic he gave me but I took it. I wasn't on earth anymore.

 

89 Gonna put on my golden shoes part 2

I just wanted to backtrack a little and admit to some experience with duck poop. After I wrote the last blog I thought "Yeah. But you've seen and smelled duck poop."

I was born on Long Island, but yes very close to Queens. There were no farms except for what people grew in their yards. It was usually the old time ethnic people that had gardens of some sort. The newer, modern people had standard suburban lawns. A lot of the Italian grandpas had grape vines and tomato plants. I remember the stark contrast of white washed brick houses with the green of the gardens. There was usually a statue of the Virgin Mary in the front yard, but in the back there were areas with white crushed oyster shells bleached in the sun. The first compost.

To make this quick there were days when my parents, I should say my Dad, were in a good mood and we'd go for a drive out east on Long Island. Back in those days duck farms were a major industry out east. We'd be driving side roads, maybe stop at a diner and look at potato farms. Then out of nowhere my brother and I would say "What's that smell?" Duck farm. It didn't take long for us to just say duck farm without asking. You'd pass one and hold your nose but be amazed by all that bright white. Orange beaks and bright white. Pretty nice looking. There's a history with that and I read that there's just one duck farm left. Sad.

But it was out in the open. Not an enclosed room. Here's another little duck story but remember these were different times. I used to explore the creek that was a few blocks away. Happened to see duck eggs one day and told my brother. I was pretty jazzed about it. Well, he went and got the eggs and brought them home. My mom was a big proponent of animals and said we should have left them in nature, what little there was. But now our rotten human smell was all over them and we had to raise them. Three eggs so one for each of us. (My sister with the hairspray was still at home.) 

We wrapped them up in a towel and left them in a warm place. I don't know how we knew, I forget, but I remember that mine died. More morbid life theme. "Mine's dead!" 😭

My sister didn't care so she gave me hers. My mom knew quite a bit about things because she grew up on one of those potato farms out near Patchogue, before they bought the deli in Nassau County. So we took an old double porcelain sink and dug a hole in the ground. Sunk that in there and filled it with water. The two ducks hatched. They were the white Long Island ducks, Pekin ducks, who were not really native.

They were my crazy friends with a "power load" of personality. I was pretty little so I didn't do all that much work with them. I played with them. I'd go out there in the backyard and they'd quack at me. Sometimes they got a little wild and chased me. I didn't do anything to bother them, I think they were just crazy. As a matter of fact they got so super crazy one day quacking at me and chasing me, that I ran into the next yard and climbed a dirt hill left from the driveway they were putting in. They had to get the dirt bomb.

Problem is we didn't have a fence to keep them in the yard. Lots of trees and bushes along the side, but sometimes they'd just go out front and walk down the sidewalk and bother the neighbors. The day of reckoning came. My mom told me we had to get rid of the ducks. "But why?" "Because they bit Mrs. Baylis."  That was a tearjerker of a day, that's for sure.

I feel better admitting to the duck poop, but it was always out in the open. No concentrated odors so my revulsion to the chicken poop still stands.